I'm so sorry to hear about your husband :( No you don't "need" any more nasty energy in your life. It's like Barbara can't NOT be harassing someone, which is such a total irony, in that she has multiple Facebook sites that focus on cyber harassment. It is the perfect irony, really, that Barbara Camwell Ness hides behind these sites. It reminds me of a two year old that covers their face with their hands and giggle because they think if they can't see you, you can't see them. It is CLASSIC illustration of the primitive mind-set of pathological people. Even reading this, Barbara can't truly understand it, much less believe it, because she has zero empathy. Between her and McGrannahan, they've lived their lives missing massive chunks of it due to their inability to have actual RELATIONSHIPS with others.
Lack of real, meaningful human relationships creates the perpetual harassment of McGrannahan and Barbara Camwell Ness. They still need the connection, but their pathology perverts that need, and when harassing one person stops fulfilling them, they move on to get their goodies from another person. We're dealing with truly disturbed persons, living half lives, and they know they are "different" and they know they are missing something everyone else seems to have in abundance. That's what fuels their compulsion to harass, basically, it's all they have. It's all they can actually feel. It's a miserable life. Worse, they are human generators of misery for others, which they feel entitled to "share". Their misery is somehow made "better" by making others miserable. How extremely screwed up is that? It's not YOUR fault or MY fault these idiots live the miserable, limited existence they do, and like hell could we do a thing about it!
My best advice, (being Kim Stewart mentioned above lol) is to simply ignore them. Responding in any way feeds their pervertedness, and actually makes it worse. McGrannahan and Camwell have been emailing me for months without a response, it's like they don't NEED me to respond, the whole shitpile is going on inside their nasty little heads. That is known as "responding to internal stimuli", a psychiatric term referencing mental illness -- how a person is so locked inside their own disturbance they *think* they are receiving stimuli from the "outside" but are in fact unable to determine outside stimuli from internal stimuli. I'm telling you, these two are frankly disturbed. We are not talking about garden variety vengefulness here, we're talking deeply deformed psychologies.
Thankfully the crap they do post on defamation sites is written by them, via their pathetically obvious rhetoric. I've shown some of the crap written about me and the FIRST thing the person reading has commented is "God what's wrong with her?" They don't look at me as if Mary and Barbara's BS is telling them something new about me. Their first response is that there is something terribly wrong with the writer. Which is perfectly true :)